Calm the fuck down! Take a deep breathe! Inhale. Exhale. Inhale! Exhale! Everything is ok! You are exactly where you are suppose to be! 

Let me repeat, you are exactly where you are suppose to be at this moment in your life.  All too frequently we allow ourselves to be caught up in the "what-ifs" or the "what should be." We never really take the time to be appreciative of our journey to now. 

My life! LOL! 

My life! LOL! 

I look at my friend circle, and majority of friends, well all of my male friends are married with kids.  I was at one of their baby showers last year and I was listening to conversation at the table -- diapers, baby clothes, routine changes to accommodate these precious new people in their lives. At that very moment, I knew that I was comfortable with where I was in my life. I know that I was not ready to be married, I was not ready to have children -- essentially I was not ready to give up my freedom. No I really do love my freedom.  Yesterday I just up and booked a flight to Cartagena because I could. It felt great! 

It takes a strong person, with immense self awareness to know what they want in life and to not be influenced by the"what you should be doing." All to often we compare the entirety of our lives to the highlight reel that people share with us. We scroll our timelines and we see new cars, Chanel bags, new passport stamps, engagement announcements, baby announcements, and we expect that our lives should mirror what we see. STOP! Stop the comparison! 

You are exactly where you need to be. Timing is everything my friend. The universe will give to you exactly what you need when you need it. So if you want to get married and have babies, put in your work now, so when time is right for you, you will be ready. If that is not your lot in life, that's ok too! 

Just know that your best friend's path doesn't mean it has to be yours and vice versa. Be secure in your decisions to live your life the way you see fit. The great thing about it is you always have the free will to change up the plan. Do whatever it is that makes you happy! Just keep doing it and have no regrets!  

AB

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